The pain that we feel when we loose a loved one as a result of death or divorce affects each of us differently. It’s a deeply personal experience that we interpret through our unique view of the world and our lived experiences. Many factors including our personality, beliefs, culture and our relationship with the person we lost will determine how we grieve. The range of emotions that we feel can include: denial, anger, fear, hurt, depression, guilt, etc. Our emotions may vary in intensity as well as the manner in which we express them.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve nor is there a prescribed length of time. Some people may grieve for weeks, months or even years before they’re ready to move forward and embrace life again.
Allowing the grieving person room to find their own way toward healing while at the same time providing support is a wonderful thing. Caring can be expressed in many ways. The following are a few suggestions.
- Send a card with a handwritten note
- Call them on a regular basis
- Listen without censoring or judging
- Invite them to dinner at your home
- Encourage them to attend a grief support group
- Offer to attend the first meeting with them
- Give them a grief recovery book if they’re not ready to join a group.
- Ask them what they need help with
There are many other ways that you can help–let your heart lead the way. The important thing is to stay in touch and follow through with your offer to help.
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