Healing after the death of a loved one, a divorce, or any life-altering situation is a deeply personal experience and by its very nature—a lonely process. Grieving involves the sentiments and emotions connected to loss. Mourning is the expression of those feelings. In order for healing to take place, you must acknowledge your loss and give yourself permission to mourn as you seek God’s abundant mercy and healing grace.
Due to the uniqueness of your loss your life experiences and your emotional connection to what’s been lost, you’ll experience grief in a way that’s unique to you. However, most people experience many of the same emotions at one time or another, with depression being the most common. (For helpful information on depression see post titled Overcoming Depression.)
It’s important to remember that healing is a process. It can neither be hurried nor accomplished in a predetermined length of time. In fact, emotions that you thought you had dealt with may reappear at a later date. But even those moments of regression are evidence that healing is taking place and serve as signals that more work needs to be done at that particular stage.
Like all journeys, healing begins with a single step, followed by a second and a third, until the destination is finally reached and the peace that you long for is yours. As you begin to heal and release your associations and dreams connected to a person or lifestyle that’s no longer a part of your life, you’ll open yourself to new possibilities. Eventually, the memories that are now painful will become memories that you can cherish and treasure.
The above is an excerpt from my book, Life Interrupted: Grief Recovery Guide and Workbook, available through http://www.grief-recovery.org/ and Amazon. Visit the website to download FREE ‘Healing From Loss’ articles.